Therapy is sometimes a long slow process. Maybe I am a slow learner.
I think today the penny has dropped – you can’t rush the process, no matter how much you want to. The process is a thing all of its own, and will only go at its own pace. If I try to provide the answer for a client, then the chances are they will dig their heels in and not budge anyway. If someone tries to do the same for me, then even if I know they are right I still can’t ‘get it’ at a deep and lasting level.
So my word for today is stay close to your friends, but don’t try to change them, or change their life for the better. That is their job.